February 19th was officially mine and my husband’s two year (cotton) wedding anniversary!
My husband and I met through a free online dating website, OkCupid. For you single folks out there, it is a fun and free dating site where you can take and create quizzes, read peoples’ blogs and manage your profile. I have another friend who found her spouse through that site as well! At the time I stumbled upon my husband’s profile, I wasn’t actively seeking out relationships and was using the site more for fun and had a lot of friends using it too.
It was some time in January of 2010 when his blog showed up on my home page. It was an interesting blog about blocking people who had low match percentages or blocking people for x, y and z reasons so they would stop showing up in your searches. I don’t quite remember all the details about the blog as we’ve both deleted our accounts there. I commented without even looking at his profile. He replied to my comment. At the time, he was in California and I was in Illinois. It just so happened that he was looking for friends around the Great Lakes area because he was joining the Navy and would be going to school in IL after boot camp. He was wanting to make friends to show him around the area. We had pretty high compatibility percentages so we began talking.
We continued to talk online and eventually over the phone. He was my long-distance Valentine in 2010. In May (I think) he went off to boot camp and we wrote letters back and forth. He wanted me to be at his graduation ceremony and his father was flying in for it too. I offered to pick him up from the airport so I actually met my husband’s father before I physically met my future husband! Sadly, I nor his father got to spend much time with him after the ceremony as the Navy had him marching and moving into new barracks and stuff.
He started school after boot camp and was allowed to have liberty buddies and go off base most weekends. Usually I would chauffeur a car full of sailors to Gurnee Mills or other local malls and we would go out to eat or to the movies. One day while parked in the vistor’s lot on base, we were having our usual casual conversations before he had to return to his barracks. I don’t exactly remember what we were talking about but it was mid-conversation when he casually asked if I would marry him. Without really comprehending what he said, and without any delay, I answered his question with a yes. He was silent for a few seconds and then smiled and said, “You do realize you just said you would marry me…” Deftly executed!
We kept the news on the down-low for a while. We agreed we didn’t need rings and didn’t want an extravagant ceremony, the courthouse would do. We weren’t sure when but he wanted to make sure it happened before I lost my father’s insurance coverage in June of 2011. As cheesy as it was, we decided in early February to aim for Valentine’s Day. Sadly, we missed getting our marriage license on the Friday before V-Day by 5 minutes, because someone decided to leave work early. We settled for the following weekend and were married on February 19th, 2011.
My mother, father, brother and my niece came to the courthouse with us. My dress was on sale at Burlington Coat Factory for $25 and the marriage license was about $35. A $60 wedding! My mom got us a cake and my father took us out to Red Lobster afterwards to celebrate. I never liked being the center of attention so I’m completely content with the way we did things.
My husband is my knight in shining armor…or the biggest dork in shining soda cans! (This photo happened several years before we met, but it definitely would have won my heart then too.)
Without my husband, I would probably still be working part-time minimum wage and barely affording rent and relying on credit cards to get by…or jobless and living at home with one of my parents. Without him, I’d be without health insurance, something that is imperative for a brain tumor survivor dealing with a lot of after effects. We may not always see eye to eye when it comes to finances, cleaning or getting things done but he supports me entirely so I have to respect his decisions and will always love him dearly.